8 Replies to “Why I left Facebook”

  1. Were you using facebook exclusively before the various alternatives you list? In my own case (similarly self-selected sample size of 1), I was using all of those services (except del.icio.us) before filling out a facebook profile, which may have limited how and when I used facebook in the first place.

    I'm still using most of those services, too, although in the past six months I doubt if I log into facebook more than ten times a month (it really helps that for some reason they've decided my e-mail address is invalid and stopped plastering my inbox with notifications)

    Obviously, being elsewhere on the web and having had my own sites 10x longer than I've had a facebook profile, I consider myself a savvy web-user as well, although I never monkey around in the privacy settings jungle I hear about so often lately. However, I'm pretty sure it's safe to say there's nothing on my profile that I wouldn't make available on a completely (deliberately) public web page. Is that the real sticking point here? That facebook was the first time a majority of its users had an internet presence, and it didn't occur to them that it might be more public than their home computer? If so, then even though they might be bastards on some or many levels, I have a harder time blaming facebook for anything they might be up to lately.

    On the other hand, I joined in March '09 in order to stay connected to a specific community, and by the new year I was pretty much done. Not because of any principled decision, but just because it didn't seem very good for anything except being invited to improv shows and watching people wish each other happy birthday.

    1. I used Facebook before anything else, but I was on FB in 2004. As I became more familiar with the web, I gradually relied on Facebook less and less. The culmination of all of their "features" I didn't like and the trouble they have had making changes has pushed me off of it.

      I agree that part of the privacy issue falls on the users and them not realizing what is public (see Openbook). But part of that responsibility is on Facebook to say very explicitly "Hey, the whole world can see this status/photo/comment. Are you OK with that?" I think the lack of understanding on both sides of the fence is a big problem.

  2. I'll miss being able to give you a virtual high five and hug. The trouble I see with extricating yourself from Facebook is that you become a bit of a non-person. It is an opportunity to connect — even if that connection is not as authentic or meaningful as you might prefer, it is a connection nonetheless — from which you are purposefully insulating yourself.

    1. Great point Dan. It is an opportunity to connect. There are literally hundreds of "opportunities to connect" everyday with new and interesting people online (forums, social networks, blog comments) and in real life (organizations, meetups, bars). We each weigh the values of these opportunities and choose the ones we feel might bring us the best value for our time. In my case, I think other opportunities are much more valuable than Facebook. On Facebook, while you can connect, it seems more and more that people spend time just browsing and playing games rather than taking part in conversations.

      I'm not in search of a large quantity of connections (that's easy). I'm looking for the high quality ones, and Facebook doesn't make that list.

  3. I really love Facebook. It seemed like it would be a great place to try some advertising since just about everyone uses it. I’ve been marketing on Adwords for years, so I thought I knew what I was doing. Well I was dead wrong. I blew $200 fast advertising on FB. I had kind of given the thought up but I saw a thread about this Facebook ads guide on the Warrior forum. Looks interesting but I’m wondering if you have had any luck with it? Here’s a link to it. Thinking about giving it a try to see if I was really doing something completely wrong with Facebook before or not. Help?

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